the power of being a woman to find the man of your dreams.

Have you ever wondered why some women have more luck than others on the dating scene? These women seem to be the select few who know the secret to attracting quality men.

But in truth, every woman possesses innate “powers” and natural abilities that can help her find the right partner – regardless of her age, dating history, or physical appearance. She just needs to learn how. 

Let’s explore how you can transform your approach to dating, so that you can find long-lasting love. You’ll learn how to change your perceptions of men by improving your relationship with yourself; how to use your “powers” to support your relationship goals; and how to create a strong, long-term relationship once you’ve found your Mr. Right. 

Ready to embrace the power of being a woman? Let’s get to it!

Shifting your perceptions can help you break the cycle of bad relationships

When it comes to forming healthy relationships, you should always start with the most important person in your life – you! And that’s because the way you think about yourself influences the way that others treat you.

How we perceive ourselves is completely up to us. When our self-esteem is low, we’re choosing to let other people tell us what we’re worth. When we love and value ourselves, others will too.

If you know in your heart that you’re worthy of everything you want in life, you’ll get it. Remember, confidence is key. And the best part of being confident? It frees you from the weight of other people’s opinions. 

The bottom line is that being a woman is a gift. And as a woman, you have the power to transform your life – you just need to learn how.

The first lesson on this journey will probably be the most difficult to grasp. Why? Because it goes against what many of us are told is our very nature as women. That being said, it’s an important part of changing the way you think about relationships. What is this crucial skill? The ability to control your emotions.

Any woman who’s been in the dating pool knows that there are men who’ll prey on a woman’s emotional nature to get what they want. But if you have a handle on your emotions, you limit how much these men can influence your actions. 

Let’s look at a classic example – a guy breaks your heart by cheating on you. Any logical person would flip him the bird and move on with their life. But strong emotions can lead you to make excuses for someone’s bad behavior – even when you know it’s wrong.

The easy part is recognizing when emotions are in the driver’s seat. The hard part is controlling them. When you feel them taking over, have an honest conversation with yourself. Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t give in to them. Make a conscious effort to move forward with your head, not your heart. What decision is truly best for you and your future?

This isn’t to say that you should shut off your emotions completely. In fact, you can bet that they’ll still be there even after you make the logical choice. Like any wound, leave them alone until they’re healed.

Being emotional isn’t a bad thing – it’s part of what makes women special. But emotions that impact your decision-making can get you into trouble. Mastering your emotions will put the power back in your hands.

Think of the competition for your heart as a game that only the best man will win

Everything about you – life experiences, accomplishments, looks, and personality – is completely unique. Start thinking of yourself as a prize to be won! You are special and any man that wants to be with you is going to have to prove he’s worthy of your time. 

This is what referred to as the “power of the game.” Over the course of your dating journey, plenty of men will compete for your love. But only the best man can win. 

You may be wondering how you’ll know who has done enough to win the game. Well, here’s your first assignment. Picture your dream guy and think of the ten most important qualities you want in him. Then, write this list down and put it somewhere easy to access, so you can refer back to it when you need a reminder. 

Keep in mind that this list might change and grow as you do. For instance, when you’re eighteen, stability might not seem that important, but when you’re forty, it might appear on your list. 

Once you know your top ten qualities, it becomes easier to sift through the men in your life. If a man doesn’t meet a majority of the things on your list, you’ll know it’s time to let him go. If a man fails to meet even half of your requirements, he’s not worthy of playing the game and should be disqualified immediately.

The way the man treats you should be the very first thing that attracts you to him

There are 3.9 billion men on this planet. In the US alone, 18 million of these men are single. So, with that many men out there, why waste your time on one guy who doesn’t treat you the way you deserve? 

If you find yourself in a negative situation like this, it’s time to use one of your powers – taking out the trash. Remember, intuition is a woman’s best friend. Odds are you’ll already know when someone isn’t right for you. When this happens, don’t try to make excuses or convince yourself that he will change.

This can be really difficult. But if you don’t quickly let go of men who fall short of your expectations, odds are you’ll spend the next few years trying to fix things, before discovering it can’t be done.

The worst part is that, while you’re focusing on one man who isn’t even worth your time, you’ll miss out on meeting a bunch of great guys. Instead of using your energy trying to fix someone, use it to make your own life better.

Once you’re back on the dating scene, you can use yet another important power to make sure this same situation doesn’t happen again – selective attraction.

Using this power means keeping one very important phrase in mind at all times: be attracted to how a man treats you before anything else.

Being treated well can mean different things to different people – so here’s another assignment for you. After list of things you want in a man that you created earlier? Underneath it, write a paragraph about how you want to be treated by your partner. 

Once you have this written down, you’ll know exactly what you want from your future relationship. Referring to it when you’re dating someone will stop you from lowering your standards to accommodate men who don’t hit the mark.

The secret is striking a balance. Find someone who meets the majority of your standards and treats you well. It might be tricky, but once you do, you’ll know he’s the one.

When a man knows you have no time to waste, he’ll cut to the chase

One thing men love is the chase. When a man sees that a woman has a lot of things going on in her life, it instantly makes her more interesting. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who has a life of her own, full of big dreams and goals. And this brings us to your next power – staying busy.

When a man knows that you have limited time for him, he’ll try to impress you right away. He’ll do everything he can to make you spend your valuable time with him, because he knows you don’t have to. 

Keeping yourself busy will not only increase your chances with men, but it will also benefit the trajectory of your own life. Reflect on where you see yourself in five years. What about ten?

Don’t be afraid to set big goals and go after them. And when you do meet a good man, don’t let him become a distraction. A healthy relationship should add to your life, not subtract. You and your man should work together to reach the things you both aspire to.

That being said, goals and dreams are not the only things that can fill your time. You can also stay busy by becoming a “super dater.” The best way to do this is by taking advantage of online dating.

With online dating, you’re in control. There are so many options available – even sites for specific niches – so you can have multiple dates lined up at once. Date a wide variety of men and see who you're drawn to.

As women, we can sometimes take the process of dating a bit too seriously. It’s perfectly fine to go out on multiple dates with different people – men do this all the time! Even if you’re not immediately attracted to a guy, give it a shot. Just go out there and have fun. You never know who you might meet.

Sometimes the best way to understand how men think is to act like one!

One of the reasons why dating is difficult is because men and women can be so different. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it just means that our brains aren’t wired the same way. 

So, how do we overcome this problem? As the old saying goes, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em. Sometimes the best way to understand how men think is to start acting like one. To help explain this idea, let’s get into a few of the differences in our approaches to dating. 

First, men don’t let emotions take over. This goes back to the ideas we discussed earlier. Guys are great at keeping their emotions at bay until they think they’ve found the right woman. They don’t let these emotions dictate the decisions they make or how they react.

Second, men don’t sweat the small stuff. They don’t sit around agonizing over details – and neither should you! If you feel yourself overthinking things, be like a man and snap out of it. Being more relaxed will not only make you feel happier, but it will help you make better decisions in the long run.

Third, men don’t usually try to “fix” a woman.  Unlike many women, when men realize that a potential partner isn’t a good match for them, they let them go. Remember, people don’t change unless they want to.

And lastly, men don’t try to rationalize bad behavior. If men are treated badly, they’ll walk away. If they’re cheated on, they’re probably not going to give that person a chance to do it again. Sensing a theme here? 

Thinking like a man is a great power to draw on if you’re struggling with your dating life. If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, ask yourself how a man would approach your situation, and let that answer guide your decision.

Once you find your dream guy, the power of appreciation can help you maintain a healthy relationship

If you follow the advice that you’ve learned here, there’s a good chance you’ll find your Mr. Right. Of course, it’s not going to happen overnight, but this is a good thing. The longer it takes, the more confident you can be that he’s the one for you.

However, the work doesn’t stop once you’ve found him. Maintaining a healthy relationship requires effort from both sides. And that’s where one final power can help – appreciation. 

One of my friend’s (as revealed by her) grandmother always said that if you want to have a good husband, you need to be a good wife. When she was younger, she felt that this phrase was pretty sexist. In later years, it dawned on her that this saying was really about reciprocity. 

Everything should go both ways. If you’re lucky enough to find someone that treats you well, you need to show them the same level of love, respect, and appreciation. And as with any important relationship you have in your life – communication is key.

If your man does something that makes you happy, tell him. If he does something that hurts you – even if it’s completely unintentional – tell him. Men may have a lot of strengths, but reading between the lines isn’t one of them. Openly communicate your feelings.

One very important thing to note is that nobody is perfect. You’re not a perfect person, so you shouldn’t expect your guy to be either. Everyone makes mistakes – it’s part of life. Remember that you come with your own unique set of faults, just like your Mr. Right does. 

Your partner has put in the work to prove to you that he’s a good man. Now it’s your turn to show him that you appreciate the wonderful person he is. The task is actually very simple, but it’s crucial to making a relationship work. Give him your heart and you’ll earn his in return.

Dating doesn’t have to be hard or heartbreaking. With the right knowledge, you can adjust your approach and finally get the results you want.

The first step is to change how you perceive both yourself and the men around you. Once you have this new mindset, you can start to use your natural “powers” to transform your dating life and find the love you deserve.

Once you’ve found the right guy, show him appreciation and communicate openly to build a healthy relationship. You’ve got the tools, now go out there and create the life you’ve always wanted for yourself. You are worth it.