10 Ways to love to eternity....

This evening  I am feeling like sharing a story with you all. This piece is more of a conversation which ensued few days back between me and a friend. 

An usual day, on our way back from work, we bumped into each other and embarked on exchanging some pleasantries. 

I always sense things looking at people hence I felt something unusual behind the smile of this fellow.

Conversation ensued.....

• Me: How r u?
• Friend: I am good what about you?
• Me: I am as usual. I was good and now feeling better after meeting you!!!
• Friend: Really??I wanna tell you something...I mean I am not good you know.
• Me: I know...Spill it.
• Friend: I am going far from the person I love.
• Me: What do u mean???Is she moving somewhere?
• Friend: Moving away from me.
• Me: So you guys broke up.
• Friend: No!!!We haven't but something's amiss.
• Me: What is that?
• Friend: I don't know.
• Me: So zero information!!!You feel something or rather insinuating something basis zero conviction/evidence.
• Friend: I wish I know that...She hasn't told me anything but she slowly made a distance I never realised. She doesn't speak the way, she used to. She talks to me though but not the way we used to. She is distracted and I started feeling that I aint special to her anymore the way I used to be. I started feeling that I am kinda baggage to her now days. she used to say me the L word almost every day but not anymore. My "L" word remains unanswered now days. I feel abandoned and dejected. She is not the person I fell in love with and began to dream of being together. Forever.

It continued.............

I understood where is it going and felt the probable impact of such unknown situation on my dear special friend. I realised that this is the time to serve one of the purposes we were born for....

Me:

Dear Mate,

1. You are heartbroken basis nary an evidence. You are bound to fail. Do u remember your school days? Examination without preparation??You dint study and you are hoping to pass. Will you ever??

2. Gather information. Understand situation. Is it a break or a break up? Both are pretty different in nature. Break can be a break up but not always so. Break is good. It creates space. May be it became suffocating for her hence such hiatus. It will create absence and absence always makes us feeling the value of the person. May be you haven't valued her the way she wanted. This space should be used by you to understand the chemistry once again. Sometimes we assemble fragments to build a structure and then fall in love with that. Then someday it fall off and breaks into fragments. Instead of ruminating over the same, we begin to assemble again with a hope of getting the same structure back and the final product becomes better than the previous one. We were conscious, matured and experienced this time.

3. Coming to "L" word. Sometimes we don't write it or say it cuz it has gone beyond writing or saying, May be it is more intense now. Sometimes we keep on saying or writing it but don't mean it at all. How many times you say I love you to your parents??

4. Was distance there before you got to know each other? I presume YES hence it was bridged before and can be again.

5. People got to be loved the way they want to be loved else they will remain unloved no matter how much you think you love them. So may be you weren't loving her the way she wanted hence..........

6. You were feeling special in this relationship. Now you aren't. Were you feeling special before meeting her? Noooo. So Not feeling special isn't new to you. You are back to your old self. We shouldn't lose touch with our root. You weren't this much disappointed before while not feeling special, why now???

7. Convey gratitude. She made you feel special when no-one else ever did. So text her "thank you" for making these days so lovely and making you realised that such things exists in present world. Isn't that beautiful???

8. You told me that she still texts you, may be not the way she used to but she still texts. Think about that again......My friend's Glasses glinted in firelight after hearing that (he were specs).

9. God gave you this opportunity to work on yourself and come back stronger and live upto "US".

10. Last but not the least if it's really a real break-up and you still love her, let her go. By letting her go would be the best way you may convey your love for her. Remember God did the same. God love us all thats why he brought us here and then let us all be on our own in this world while still loving and blessing us from distance. 

"Love is not holding hands and looking at each other. Love is sitting next to each other looking at the same direction. Love is not just conveying feeling for each other but to enrich each other. Love is to grow together while being with each other. Remember a tree. We protect to insulate the sapling from storm or rain and then let it grow while growing with them. Sometimes somewhere some tree doesn't grow the way we expected or in comparison to other trees around. We give up on that and cut it short. Every relationship is unique and doesn't go the way other relationships around grow. Stop comparing, complaining and Criticising. 

Long-lasting

Original

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